I've reached an epiphany of sorts. It can be summed up in three parts:
* PART THE FIRST! - I Don't Like to Be Told What to Do
I went on a date about a month ago with a guy who seemed fairly nice. We got along well so I decided to get to know him better. After two dates, he started to talk about being "exclusive" and implied other future plans. This ticked me off for a few different reasons. He hadn't known me more than two weeks and he already felt comfortable enough to discuss MY future with HIM, we hadn't talked about much else than himself so he basically had no interest in who I am or who I want to be (apparently there's plenty of time to work that all out after the wedding), and then, to top it all off, he suggested I stay in Idaho after I graduate and forget about a career. No one plans my future for me but God, and even He draws a line.
*PART THE SECOND! - Words Are Awesome...But I Need More
I've heard many a boy say some pretty words. Words are great. I respect a man who can speak his mind and do so eloquently. However, I need something more substantial to back them up. I'm absolutely sick to death of boys who can't man up and do what they say what they're going to do.
*PART THE THIRD! - I'm Sweet Not Stupid
I'm not entirely sure what makes some guys believe that I'm gullible when they first meet me...I guess all they see is a cute face and blond hair. But those are exactly the boys I refuse to deal with from now on. I used to use that type a bit and toy with them. Just to blow them off completely, later. Avoiding them in general would probably be wisest not only for my own physical and emotional safety, but for the feeling of a clean conscience in not leading anyone on. Boys like that are stupid for the most part and not worth my time or attention.
Thinking about this in general is somewhat frustrating. But it had to be thought about. Now I have written down and can be done with it. <3
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Saturday, December 19, 2009
A Lesson in Charm
In a certain recent meeting of my church's single adult ladies auxiliary, a certain lady made a certain comment that struck a sour chord with me: "Let's face it girls, we're never getting married."
This rather nonsensical and compulsive speech was a blatant advertisement of her own bitter and spinsterish mood to all those present. Now how many recognized it for what it was is uncertain as many of the women in our congregation would love nothing more than to be married but are not, thus this discouraged some even further I'm sure.
I think the lady in question was just having a bad day as she'd just turned 35 and had no prospects. Perhaps I'm too bold to suggest what could be her problem?
For starters, the attitude needs some adjusting. A spinster is as a spinster thinks, ya know! What one doesn't have in beauty must be made up for with wit and personality. Energetic love of life and laughter not only makes a person happier, it makes them prettier on the outside too. A higher level of grooming wouldn't hurt either, though.
This girl is no mud fence, no, not at all. But she doesn't ever play up the best features of her face and figure. What's getting up maybe 10 minutes earlier to pamper yourself in the morning? When I feel pretty, I act pretty. And I've noticed the same behavior in the cases of many other girls.
Another good emotional make-better tip comes to mind: Ditch the idea that you absolutely have to get married at a certain age. I don't think God intended life to be a man hunt for matrimony. Don't get me wrong, marriage is an awesome goal to have. But pinning it to an age just isn't fair to you. It leaves almost no room for love or any sort of meeting of the heart with the head.
I suppose the point of this blog is this: When you're feeling unattractive and just can't seem to establish a good relationship with a good person, perhaps it's time you took stock of yourself as a person and changed what you don't like, rather than blaming the world for your problems and spreading gloom where it has no business being spread.
<3 Ashley
This rather nonsensical and compulsive speech was a blatant advertisement of her own bitter and spinsterish mood to all those present. Now how many recognized it for what it was is uncertain as many of the women in our congregation would love nothing more than to be married but are not, thus this discouraged some even further I'm sure.
I think the lady in question was just having a bad day as she'd just turned 35 and had no prospects. Perhaps I'm too bold to suggest what could be her problem?
For starters, the attitude needs some adjusting. A spinster is as a spinster thinks, ya know! What one doesn't have in beauty must be made up for with wit and personality. Energetic love of life and laughter not only makes a person happier, it makes them prettier on the outside too. A higher level of grooming wouldn't hurt either, though.
This girl is no mud fence, no, not at all. But she doesn't ever play up the best features of her face and figure. What's getting up maybe 10 minutes earlier to pamper yourself in the morning? When I feel pretty, I act pretty. And I've noticed the same behavior in the cases of many other girls.
Another good emotional make-better tip comes to mind: Ditch the idea that you absolutely have to get married at a certain age. I don't think God intended life to be a man hunt for matrimony. Don't get me wrong, marriage is an awesome goal to have. But pinning it to an age just isn't fair to you. It leaves almost no room for love or any sort of meeting of the heart with the head.
I suppose the point of this blog is this: When you're feeling unattractive and just can't seem to establish a good relationship with a good person, perhaps it's time you took stock of yourself as a person and changed what you don't like, rather than blaming the world for your problems and spreading gloom where it has no business being spread.
<3 Ashley
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